In the first place, you are a man; and this is one who has nothing superior to the faculty of the will, but all other things subjected to it; and the faculty itself he possesses Unenslaved and free from subjection.
"A Selection from the Discourses of Epictetus With the Encheiridion"
Epictetus
Her love should be A love that clings not, nor is exigent, Encumbers not the active purposes, Nor drains their source; but profers with free grace Pleasure at pleasure touched, at pleasure waived, A washing of the weary traveller's feet, A quenching of his thirst, a sweet repose, Alternate and preparative; in groves Where, loving much the flower that loves the shade, And loving much the shade that that flower loves, He yet is unbewildered, Unenslaved, Thence starting light, and pleasantly let go When serious service calls.
"Character"
Samuel Smiles