The phrase "way the cookie crumbles" means the situation or result has turned out in a unexpected or undesirable way. If you want to express this idea in other words, you might say "that's just how it goes," "such is life," "that's the way the ball bounces," or "you win some, you lose some." Another related idiom is "riding the ups and downs," which means experiencing the good and bad parts of life. Other phrases that could be used as synonyms for "way the cookie crumbles" include "life's a gamble," "it is what it is," and "fate has spoken." Whatever phrase you choose, the sentiment remains the same: sometimes things don't go as planned.