They can take it if they want to, but it's hard to find the right woman; and even then she must want to take it by being with the man she loves, or perhaps it is psychological-Martyring themselves to gain a subtle control of that man, which they all want to do.
"For Every Man A Reason"
Patrick Wilkins
Whether in the smoky and almost impenetrable recesses of the cabin, or braving the cold and penetrating rain upon deck, it mattered not, she was ever at my side, and not only Martyring me by the insufferable annoyance of her vulgar loquacity, but actually, from the appearance of acquaintanceship such constant association gave rise to, frightening any one else from conversing with me, and rendering me, ere many hours, a perfect Paria among the passengers.
"The Confessions of Harry Lorrequer, Complete"
Charles James Lever (1806-1872)
And he, Martyring them, knew neither day nor night of peace.
"Beasts, Men and Gods"
Ferdinand Ossendowski